The spirit husband and wife phenomenon, a perspective

Word Power with Ladi Ayodeji

Mysteries may never end. When people face problems or experience strange, negative occurrences which cannot be reasoned away, they lay the blame at the door steps of enemies, real or imagined.

We are still on a voyage of discovery. There are many things we still don’t know or understand because we can only know in part, until the dispensation of the fullness of time when God will reveal all things by Christ Jesus. This is why one cannot dismiss the spirit-husband or spirit-wife phenomena as reported by many people. It is a real problem.

For instance, we know that demons exist, but we are not told by the Bible about their origins. Therefore, to declare that spirit-husband or wife do not exist is to abide in folly. What is clear from Biblical revelation is that, there are no female spirits, angels or demons, as some claim. However, demons are disembodied spirits.

When some angels fell (sinned), God took their bodies from them; so, they became demons. However, a demon is a man, not male. A demon, spirit or angel cannot have sex all by themselves unless they take the body of a human being or animal whose sexuality is identified by a masculine or feminine gender.

When the unclean spirit has gone out of a person, it wanders through waterless regions looking for a resting place, but it finds none. Then it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ When it comes, it finds it empty, swept, and put in order (Matthew 12:43,44).

Moreover, only human beings and animals are created as male and female which is why they can have sex. Every other living beings be they angel, spirit or demon is a man; not male. God Himself is Spirit and He is often mentioned and described in the masculine gender, He. God is not a male; for to infer that He is a male is to reduce God to the level of having sex. However, a spirit can manifest as male or female, and in some cases, half-man, half-animal. An evil spirit can transform or manifest as an angel of light, according to the Bible.

The purported spirit-husband manifests in a woman’s dream and makes love to her while she’s asleep. This spirit-husband is called succubus. It manifests as a man. Among the havoc they allegedly cause to women possessed of such evil spirit is that they may not get married to earthly suitors without a struggle because the spirit husband, being jealous, would always thwart this effort.

Victims may also experience all kinds of attacks like threatened abortions, delayed marriage, premature or mysterious death of a husband, poverty, hatred that can’t be pinned down to any particular reason. In the course of my 15-year ministry, I have received complaints from many women who experience strange sexual intercourse with unidentified men (spirits) in their dreams. The truth is that a demon spirit, acting on the instructions of a physical enemy, may harass a woman in a dream, make love to her and torment her in other negative ways. No spirit-husband can make love to a woman without taking the physical body of a man.

For every spirit-husband or spirit wife, there’s a living man or woman behind them. A jilted suitor could unleash a demon spirit-husband against a lover to punish her for breaking his heart. A lady, who lost her boyfriend to a rival, may seek revenge by launching a spiritual attack, using the medium of a so-called spirit-husband to punish her rival. Some ladies may offend unforgiving parents and get punished by a spirit-husband. If a parent or someone places a curse on a lady, it could perch and manifest as a spirit that torments, using a woman’s most ardent desire-husband.

In the same vein, a philandering boy friend or habitual heart-breaker may experience attacks in form of sex with a strange woman in a dream. This demon is called incubus, an alleged female demon who terrorizes the men folk in their sleep. But as explained, incubus merely takes the image of a woman: there are no female demons or spirits.

Just as it happens to women with spirit-husbands, a man possessed of the spirit may not be able to marry an earthly wife. He could experience poverty, failure, delays or, even, impotence, in some extreme cases. When this occurs, victims can be delivered because God has, through the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus, provided salvation to those who accept him as Lord and Saviour. Anyone under satanic onslaught can be freed from such oppression if they go through deliverance by a credible minister of God who has the requisite spiritual gifts. By the grace of God I do conduct deliverance sessions, even by phone.

People should not patronize demonic altars by going to strange prayer houses that are not under a properly constituted church or ministry; if you do that you risk contracting a demon spirit that may become a tormentor. Spiritual attacks may come to you through contact with demon-possessed spiritualists and divination priests masquerading as pastors, prophets, prophetess, etc.

Many women are desperately looking for marriage partners and foolishly fall victims of native doctors who claim to have solutions. By all means, seek spiritual help, but make sure you go to the right source: a genuine Christian ministry, with proven record of credibility. It is always good for one to investigate strange manifestations, whether in dreams, visions or real life situations.

Where evil is present, you should fast and pray a prayer of enquiry to ask what God is saying about any work of the devil you might be experiencing per time. That’s the best counsel I can give you. Finally, can a Born Again Christian be possessed by a spirit – spouse? That’s for another day.

Memory Verse: The highest heavens belong to the Lord, but the earth he has given to man – Ps 115:16

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Brain teasers

Q: Who wrote the book of Hebrews?

A: We are not told.

Q: Did Jesus speak in tongues? 

A: No, but he operated in all the other gifts.

Q: where did Cain get his wife from? – Gen 4:17

A Cain married one of his sisters – Gen 5:4. That was permitted then. Cain had to marry his sisters because the Adam family was the only one on earth at the time.

Ayodeji is an Author, Rights Activist, Pastor and Life Coach. He can be reached for mentoring, speaking engagements and counseling on 09059243004 (sms & whatsapp only).